Crazy as it may seem, as of today, we’ve been married a whole month! While we were engaged, everybody kept telling us, “Just wait. It will all change once you’re married. You’ll get fat, get sick of each other and want a king-sized bed.” Well, I had my doubts, since Fernando and I had spent every possible moment together and cooked dinner together every night. I pretty much knew what I was getting into.
I just wanted to say that marriage hasn’t changed life a whole lot, except for obvious benefits of course, but I won’t go into that. Maybe it’s too soon to tell, but we still enjoy cooking together, writing on each other’s Facebook wall, playing Nintendo, hanging out at the Enclave, and cuddling. We are still the same couple who couldn’t wait to spend every second of the day together. Amazing as it may seem, Fernando still opens my door! (i told you so mom). And he treats me just as good (if not better) than on our first date. I haven’t even found any habits of his that are annoying.
But this is all my point of view. Fernando could very well disagree…although I don’t think he does…I hope. There were a few changes that came along with married life however.
Church is definitely different than our old singles ward. Seeing tears in Relief Society is not a foreign concept to me, however it’s a little more disruptive when it’s from very loud children whose mothers refuse to take them out. Sometimes my hopes go up when they stand up, and I think they are leaving, but no, they just go to the back of the room. I dunno, maybe they just get confused and think they’ve left the room and nobody can hear them. Sometimes when I stand up after sitting for a long period of time the room looks totally different to me. Anyway, I find it annoying, its only the children who I see with tears in their eyes these days, and I secretly wish it was me again.
Fernando and I have kind of found ourselves in a little bit of a social dilemma lately, although this really started when we got engaged. All of a sudden our single friends didn’t want to hang out with us. But I can’t really blame them. I always thought it was strange to hang out with married people when I was single. It seems like the majority of our ward has children or is pregnant, meaning they constantly talk about their children or having children. Maybe that is the reason so many couples in this area get pregnant so soon after marriage. They just want to be fit into a social category. It doesn’t bother me enough to want to change our situation any, though. We are hosting a house warming party this Wednesday, with both single and married friends, so it will be interesting to see who shows up.
Those seem to be the only changes really. Overall we love married life. With nobody’s mess but our own, matching dishes, knives that actually cut, and waking up next to your best friend. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
